Life is a series of moments. Some moments can be happy and joyous. Some moments can be stressful and frustrating. Then we have those in-between moments when life seems to be moving at a dull pace — you are just going through the motions of existing. It can seem as if your life controls what you experience, instead of you controlling your life’s experiences.
How does it make you feel to know that you are not in complete control of your life? It can be a tough pill to swallow. You are constantly frustrated because you feel as if you are riding an emotional rollercoaster that you can never get off of. Life is the one that controls the ups and downs and you are just along for the ride.
Nobody likes being on an emotional rollercoaster. The constant state of fearing where your life is taking you can produce a great deal of stress. When you are stressed you tend to think irrationally because your emotions overpower your logical thinking. Thinking and acting irrationally only worsens the current situation you are going through. You are then left feeling worse than when your problem originally occurred.
That is what makes life so perplexing. It presents us with different situations, leaving us to react in the moment, rather than us taking time to think about what is occurring and why it is occurring. This is why life controls you. You constantly allow it to change the direction of your thoughts and actions at any given moment. It controls you like a puppet on a string.
Problems and events do not control you
Yes, you will be presented with real problems in your life that can create significant levels of stress due to their relevance in your life. A loved one dying, having financial issues, and your own health problems are all things that can produce high levels of stress. But, you have to understand that even those problems cannot control you if you do not give them the authority to have control.
A loved one dying is a sad occasion but we all know that life must end someday. No one is immortal, which means that any day could be our last. Once you fully come to terms with this fact, you allow yourself to handle death in a more logical manner. You are able to remember that person for who they were, instead of only being caught up in their death, Yes, the pain of losing a family member or friend will hurt. You just have to remember that your time will come to, which is why you have to live life to the fullest while you still have the opportunity.
Finances are the biggest reason why most people in this world are stressed today. They simply do not have enough money. This is the reason why marriages end in divorce and why people commit suicide. Not having your finances in order is a major issue but one that you have the ability to control. If you want more money, you simply have to make more money. Saying this may sound easier said than done but it is not impossible. We will revisit this subject later in this article.
When you are having health issues it can be very tough to deal with. This is especially true when you are dealing with serious problems that affect your long-term health. What has to be remembered is that the majority of health problems can be prevented by being proactive with your health. This means eating healthy, exercising regularly, and going to your doctor for regular checkups. Doing these things help you maintain good health, which negates the stress caused by being unhealthy.
Are you starting to see how you allow life to control you when you have the power to control your own life? The stress that you allow to control your thinking can be eliminated if you made a real effort to control your life.
You probably are shaking your head in disagreement. This is because you are so used to possessing a victim mindset, which is nothing but an excuse to validate your position in life. It is time for you to stop complaining and stressing over your life, so that you can begin to control the life that you live.
Correction. The life that you want to live since you are merely existing right now.
Gaining control of your life will require you to step outside of your comfort zone. You can no longer think and behave like the average person living in today’s world. You will need to completely transform your thoughts and behaviors if you want to change your reality for the better.
Surround Yourself with Positivity
It seems as if the world is filled with negative people. They view the world with a negative outlook and their life seems to be filled with negativity. These are the people who complain the majority of time when posting on Facebook and then they share a meme that speaks about wealth and positivity. They are a walking contradiction and their life reflects their hypocrisy.
If you want to gain control over your life, you cannot afford to be in the company of negative people. They are draining and will suck all of the positivity out of you. This relates to the law of attraction and law of averages. Who you surround yourself with is what you attract. You become like those who you spend the majority of your time with.
This is why it is an absolute must that you only seek to surround yourself with those who are ambitious and positive. Negative people are always reacting and complaining. Positive people are proactive and only speak positive energy into the atmosphere. This is why you see such a stark difference in lifestyle for positive people compared to negative people. Positive people have no time fir making excuses — they get things done.
At this very moment take inventory of the people in your life. Determine how they add value to your life and how they add stress to your life. If they add more stress than value, it is time for you to distance yourself from them. Do not second guess making this decision. This is your life and you cannot afford to let it be corrupted by negative people. Allow them to live a life that is not fulfilling, while you seek to live a life full of abundance and prosperity.
You need to surround yourself with those people who are more successful than you. These are the people who can teach you how to live a life full of purpose and success. You want to soak up as much knowledge as possible from these positive people. They will help you transform your mindset and behavior for the better so that you can start producing greater results in your life. You will position your life for success by constantly being in the presence of positive people.
Take Control of Your Money
This was mentioned earlier and it is a highly important factor in you gaining more control over your life. When your money is severely lacking, you feel as if you are a loser. This causes you to become depressed, which only worsens your money situation. You cannot choose to get sad just because your money is nonexistent. Instead, you need to make some radical changes.
The reason you have financial issues is because you are being controlled by money, rather than being the one who controls money. You must understand that money is an asset. It is a tool that can be used to experience a world that only a few have access to. Seeing money as a tool allows you to provide for your family with no problems and help others. You only get to this point though when you realize that money is attracted to those who plan for it to exist in their lives.
Your problem is that you allow money to slip out of your hands like water, instead of accumulating it so that it can build. Do you need that house? Do you need that expensive care? Can you really afford to shop for new clothes and items every weekend?
You are a consumer, rather than a producer. As the consumer, you see money as a means to accumulate more things. The producer sees money as a way to provide for the consumer, so that they can accumulate more wealth. The only way you will take control of your money and earn more of it is by using your money to earn more money.
Discussing how to earn more money is a post that can stand alone, since it involves so many different tactics. Therefore, we will go over it in more detail in a future blog post.
Constantly Challenge Yourself
One of the biggest issues in this world is that people do not want a challenge. They want the easy way out — for things to just be handed to them. This is a weak mindset that leads to victim mentality. You cry and complain when things do not go your way, instead of making a way despite your setbacks. This is because you have conditioned yourself to find excuses, instead of finding solutions.
You have become too complacent. You wait to see what life is going to bring to you, instead of seeking out more adventures and challenges to pursue. Those who take risks are rewarded when their actions produce results. Those who are afraid of taking risks look on with envy at those who seek constant improvement and have a life that reflects their ambition.
Always seek out the biggest challenges that you can find. Doing so improves your thoughts and actions. You train yourself to make the possible out of impossible. When you are faced with constant challenges, you become more resourceful. You start to see opportunities where others see a dead-end. This is how you gain control over your life because you never allow yourself to get backed into a corner and quit. You take on a challenge with the belief that you will come out on top or either learn a lesson that will improve you.
You Need to Start Taking Control
Do not just read the information that has been provided to you. You need to apply this information so that you can take control of your life. Some say knowledge is power but real power is applied knowledge.
If you actually want to improve your life, you will need to put forth the effort to improve it. If you need some help to get started, I can be a resource that guides you along the way. We can work together to produce a life for you that is full of positivity by implementing forward-moving actions. This will result in you creating a life that you actually control. Are you ready to gain more control over your life?
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