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Coping with Changes

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Navigating through Life’s Big Changes

One thing you can surely count on is that life will always change. Change is a consistent thing in everyone’s life. Now whether you want change or not, eventually it will come your way. When change does come, your attitude and perspective will make or break how you navigate through it.

Some examples can include getting married, ending a marriage, losing a job or dealing with an illness. Any kind of change that takes you out of your routine and comfort zone can produce a lot of fear and anxiety.

You can choose to take the path of least resistance, or you can choose to struggle and fight every step along the way. Some big changes in life can be perceived as good, while some changes can be perceived as the end of world.

As I was looking for information about handling life’s big changes, I came across a great article offering 4 helpful tips about how to make the process faster and easier.

I’d like to share these 4 tips with you now.

Tip #1 Stop Fighting Against It

When change sets in, you experience negative emotions and suffer because you are trying to fight against something that’s already happening. No matter how badly you don’t want the change, it can and usually does happen anyway. Wishing things were different or stop fighting changetrying to force the situation to change just doesn’t work.

Instead of fighting against what is and struggling so hard to make things as they were before, you need to accept the situation and try to go with the flow. Acceptance makes things far easier than struggle and resistance.

Read more about hypnosis for stress and anxiety.

Tip #2 Learn to Deal with your Feelings in a Healthy Way

Finding yourself in the middle of change can cause you to feel out of control and in a constant state of turmoil. This is certainly an uncomfortable place to be, and no one wants to keep feeling like this for long.

To get your mind off the feeling of loss, sadness or other negative emotions, take positive action. This might include getting some exercise, re-discovering a favourite hobby, re-connecting with old friends or doing any other positive activity that makes you feel better.

Don’t allow yourself to feel sorry for yourself or dwell on the changes for long period of time. Get your mind on positive things that move you to a better attitude and more positive state of mind.

Read the article on how to control your emotions.

Tip #3 Changing your Perspective

perspective of changeChanging how you look at or think about the change is a very powerful and empowering tool.

Instead of spending all your time blaming, playing the victim or re-playing negative scripts over and over again, change your mind. Even if you start small and spend even a few moments during the day thinking differently about the situation, you’ll be making great strides towards feeling better.

For example, when you find yourself thinking negatively about the situation, make yourself stop. Once you are able to stop those thoughts, choose to think more positive thoughts instead. While it may not be easy in the beginning, it does get easier with consistency and practice.

Try to focus instead on any lessons you can take away from the situation. Or, tell yourself “this too shall pass,” which activates hope that you can and will get through it.

Let yourself understand and embrace that change is a part of life, and this may actually turn out to be one of the best things that ever happened to you. Even if you can’t recognise it at the time.

Read the aticle on how to think positively.


Tip #4 Self-Reflection

One of the best things that comes out of any major change in life is the opportunity for self-reflection. What that does is give us an opportunity to get off the fast track and quietly re-connect with ourselves.

What did you learn from this experience? How did you play a part in what happened? How can you grow and be a better person because of this situation?self-reflection

During this time, it’s important not to feel guilt, blame or shame. Accept what happened without beating yourself up. Be nice, gentle and forgiving…to yourself.

Spend time meditating, journaling, taking long walks and enjoying much-needed peace and calm in your life.

Change can certainly upset things in your life for a time, but it doesn’t have to be a devastating, negative thing if you don’t let it. By reflecting on what you’ve learned and what you can do differently in the future, it gives you the chance to reset your goals and feel good about your future.

Read the article on the benefits of being alone.


Since we simply cannot control everything that happens in our lives or prevent change from happening in the first place, it’s better to change your reaction and responses instead. This gives a sense of power and control back to you and helps you navigate through change far more effectively.

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